[Private Research Institute] Sexual frigidity is not terrible! Understand the 6 key points and solve the problem!
Sexual frigidity is never a regional problem! Even in the more open-minded European and American regions * and Japan * , which are familiar to Hong Kong people , couples are experiencing the same problem. Sexual incompatibility between the sexes is really distressing and discouraging.
At this time, communication is definitely a good solution . Let us try to bring out 6 key points!
1. Is it a physical problem?
In fact, it’s not that some people don’t want to have sex, but because of the “physiological” effects. Some men may refuse sexual intercourse due to erectile dysfunction ; or some women may feel pain during sexual intercourse due to vaginal dryness and tightness , which makes them less willing to have sex.
At this time, you should express the situation to the other party and work together to find ways to improve it, such as using lubricant .
2. Is it the influence of freshness?
No matter how delicious the food is, most people will probably get bored if they eat it every day. After all, pursuing novelty and excitement is part of human nature. If you stay in the same relationship for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be "sexual deficiency". At this time, you can try changing the time, place, sexual position, and dressing up to add freshness to your partner.
For example: if you have sex in bed every time, you might as well try changing to the bathroom, kitchen or other places to stimulate different passions; or wear sexy underwear that the other party has never seen before, and then use it in a position that they have never tried before. Add some flavoring to your sex life and make a new private dish before serving it to your partner!
3. Are you too stressed and too busy recently?
When you are busy with your career, family or studies, you will inevitably feel tired and "don't want to". At this time, you can try to make a private agreement with your partner and arrange a fixed time every week for each other to temporarily put down work and go on a date or a small trip.
Indulge in the time you two spend alone, and after proper relaxation, your relationship will become more heated, and perhaps your work efficiency will be doubled with half the effort!
4. Is there something wrong with the relationship?
"A fight at the head of the bed, a fight at the end of the bed." But if the other person doesn't even want to get close to the bed, how can we reconcile? Desire for sex will more or less reflect the relationship with your partner. When there are problems in a relationship, it is inevitable that each other will dislike each other.
At this time, you should first think about "Have you had a fight with your partner recently?" "Have the two parties reconciled?" Maybe the problem has not been properly handled and the other party "doesn't want it." The person who tied the bell needs to be untied , so you might as well resolve the issues between you first. When the problem is solved, I believe that the coldness will also be solved.
5. Do you feel ashamed or afraid about sex?
The other party may have experienced sexual harassment, sexual violence, or sexual assault , which may lead to fear of sexual behavior, and may subsequently lose the desire for sexual behavior.
At this time, as a partner, you should actively encourage and accompany your partner to give them a sense of security so that they can enjoy sex with peace of mind.
6. Is the target asexual ?
Asexual refers to a sexual orientation in which neither men nor women feel sexual attraction or have sexual desire .
Asexuals can fall in love with others, have sexual desires, and can masturbate. The only difference is that their desires are their own and not caused by others. Asexuals are just like other LGBT groups, but they are different from ordinary people. Heterosexual, but not abnormal.
If your partner is asexual, you should try to accept and understand the other person from their perspective , and slowly reach a consensus on "sexuality" through communication.
Of course, there are more than just these 6 reasons for low sexual desire. No matter what the reason is, the first thing is for both parties to calm down and communicate with each other so that "sex" will no longer be a stumbling block in the relationship, thereby improving the relationship between the two parties.
Finally, I send a song to couples:
* According to the American book - Rekindling Desire , among couples who have been dating for more than two years, one out of every three couples has less and less sex. Indifference in sexual life between couples and partners is a problem faced by all countries.
* The Japan Family Planning Association held a public opinion survey in 2016 , looking at the sex lives of Japanese citizens aged 16 to 49 , and found that 47.2% of married people said they were in a "sexless marriage," which was a record high in 2004 . A new high since the survey began.
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